The Missing Piece

The Missing Puzzle Piece to Your Personality

Have you heard of the Enneagram? Most people have, but if you haven’t, it’s an incredible tool for understanding what drives your behaviors. It’s a nine-type personality framework that has given me so much insight—and honestly, freedom—when it comes to understanding myself, my relationships, and the world around me.

Now, have you heard of the Seven Primal Questions? Probably not.

This is a game-changer. It’s a framework developed by Mike Foster that reveals your core emotional driver—“the thing beneath the thing that drives everything,” as Mike says. I first heard him talk about it on a podcast a year ago, and I was hooked. As someone who knows the Enneagram inside and out, discovering another tool that goes even deeper (and honestly, faster) was mind-blowing.

Enneagram vs. Primal Question: What’s the Difference?

Let’s take me as an example. I’m an Enneagram 7. If you know anything about 7s, you know we’re motivated by a desire for fun, adventure, and ultimately, contentment. We avoid pain and discomfort like the plague. Over the years, this knowledge has helped me understand why I start looking up Airbnbs in another country when I’m stressed—I just want to escape.

But what the Enneagram didn’t explain was why I felt completely crushed when my colleagues forgot to invite me to Taco Tuesday. Sure, hurt feelings are normal, but the level of devastation I felt? It seemed over the top. And for years, I had no idea why.

Then I discovered my Primal Question.

Your Primal Question: The Filter for Your Life

The Seven Primal Questions are the deep, subconscious questions we ask the world—questions rooted in childhood wounds that shape how we interpret everything around us. Each of us has one dominant question, and when it goes unanswered (or worse, when we perceive the answer as “no” or “maybe”), we spiral. Mike calls this the “scramble.” (You can listen to Mike’s conversation on the 7PQ’s here)

For me, my Primal Question is: “Am I Wanted?”

So when my coworkers casually mention tacos without inviting me, it’s not just an oversight to me—it’s a gut punch. When I work for a boss who doesn’t appreciate my contributions, it drains me more than it might drain someone else. My biggest fear—rejection—drowns out all logic.

But here’s the flip side.

When the answer to my Primal Question is “yes,” I thrive. I’m deeply inclusive, I make people feel seen, and I create spaces where others feel wanted too. Knowing this has been a game-changer for me.

Why This Matters for You

In my coaching, the Primal Question framework allows me to get to the root of a client’s struggles twice as fast—sometimes even faster—than if I were only using the Enneagram, Myers-Briggs, or StrengthsFinder. These tools are valuable, but they don’t tell the whole story.

I’ve worked with powerhouse women—driven, talented, capable women—who felt stuck but couldn’t quite pinpoint why. And more often than not, their blind spot was tied to their Primal Question. Once we uncovered it, everything clicked into place. They finally understood what had been holding them back, and more importantly, how to move forward.

What’s Your Primal Question?

If you find yourself second-guessing decisions, feeling emotionally out of control, or wondering if you’re really living in your purpose, this is for you. There are seven Primal Questions, and it takes just five minutes to uncover yours with a free assessment.

Still not sure if this is what you need? Let’s talk. You can schedule a free 30-minute call with me—no risk, just clarity.

Your transformation starts with one question. Are you ready to find yours?